If you could go back in time, what would you tell yourself on day 1 of starting your business? Do you think at the time you would have even been ready to hear it? Honestly. Because what I find with a lot of my clients is they all wish they had known something, but truth is – they weren’t probably going to do it anyways!
I posted this on my Facebook page a little while back, and it had me thinking about all of the things I wish I knew when I started my journey.
All the times I thought “If someone had just come right out and told me this, I wouldn’t have fucked this up”.
Whether you are an entrepreneur who is just starting out, or a seasoned business person, you are going to make some incredible mistakes along the way. Some will be more expensive than you ever thought possible, both financially and spiritually.
Not one to sugar coat anything, I feel like I need to share some grass roots knowledge, some of those seeds that would have kept me from having to peel my face off the floor.
You are going to fail. Cliche I know, but seriously, you are going to screw things up. The really helpful thing about these screw ups is that this is where you’ll grow. It’ll be in those really hard moments that you’ll say to yourself “I will NEVER do that again”. And if you’re smart, you won’t.
Nobody gives a shit.
I mean this from the bottom of my heart. YOU are passionate about your business because it’s yours, and you should be. In order to be successful, you’ll have to live and breathe your business, but for everyone else, they really don’t care as much as you do.
If this matters to you and your business, you have started out already by taking 10 steps back
Be patient. All of those overnight successes you see other people having, those are 5 or 10 years worth of overnights and failures and tenacity. Overnight doesn’t exist the way you think it does. Overnight means long days and nights, a lot of failures, lost friendships, gained knowledge, and scraped knees. It means being uncomfortable, and being broke, and knowing that all of your hard work will pay off in the end.
Don’t waste any time on the should have, would have, could haves. Thinking is important, overthinking is a problem. While you are getting caught up in all of the hypothetical scenarios and “what ifs”, someone else is out there just doing it.
Don’t be that person. The one who says “I thought of that too” or “I came up with that idea long ago”. Thinking about doing it won’t pay you. Having an idea won’t catapult you into success. And talking about it will not turn your hopes and dreams into ways and means.
Are you shy? An introvert? You want to discuss this with people everywhere you go?
Guess what? You can join the millions of other people out there who want to do Facebook quizzes and post about being shy. Shy will NOT bring you business. It will not bring you more clients, and it definitely won’t sell more products. If you are going to be a success, you need to put yourself out there. Go to those networking events, meet people, be memorable!
Do you think Schwarzenegger became a film star, then Senator worthy because he’s shy?
Be uncomfortable, do things you would never do, grab that mic and speak to an audience. You are an expert at something, that something is hopefully what you are in business for, and sell the shit out of yourself. Start small if you have to, and do it for free. Like riding a bike, the more you get out there the easier it gets. The first time I spoke in front of a group of people I was terrified, I could have sworn the air was getting thinner, my throat was closing, and I know they could see me sweating from the back of the room.
But, I knew if I didn’t do this, and do it again and again, than I would still be that regular Bob Minhas. That same Bob, making excuses for my lack of success, and talking about how shy I am.
“It’s supposed to be hard. If it were easy, everyone would do it” – Tom Hanks in A League of Their Own.
Prepare to lose people along the way. If you want to be the best, you have to go above and beyond what everyone else is doing. And you know what? People are going to say you’ve changed. People are going to question you. You will lose the support of your friends and family who were comfortable with you being mediocre.
And, when this happens, you know you are moving in the right direction. Surround yourself with people who challenge you to be and do better. “Yes” people are for those catch up calls twice a year. Everyday people are the ones who are calling you out on your crap, telling you to stop being lazy, and who will push you to the next level of entrepreneurship. No excuses, no more bullshit stories you have been telling yourself about who you’re not.
Here’s what I’d tell myself.
Get up every single day like it’s your last.
“I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And, doggonit, people like me!” – SNL Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley.
Like today is the only day you’ll have to push yourself and your business to their limits. Put your blinders on, stop overthinking, and start doing all the things you’ve been putting off because you’re afraid you’ll fail.
That’s Business …
And know this, my kids drive me to handle shit, every single day. Some might refer this as ‘my why‘ – and really, you can call it whatever you want, but find it. You need it.